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Content based on the BOOK<\/span><\/strong>:\u00a0Wobbly<\/b><\/span>\u00a0by Vikki Roubin<\/b><\/p>\n

At the time I wrote this, a copy of\u00a0Wobbly\u00a0sat permanently displayed on my Bookstore Trolley; I was initially drawn to the colourful, girly cover & somehow I identified with the word ‘wobbly’!!! Without ever having read the book or understanding its content, I began to use the word ‘wobbly’ on ‘those days’; ‘those days’ when I didn’t feel like I had it quite together; the days I felt less than emotionally able & stable! It was a word that packed meaning in\u00a0my<\/i>\u00a0world! In a world where I felt I was expected to have it all together!!! In a world where I clearly & very obviously knew I was far from measuring up to the expectations around me!<\/span><\/p>\n

I finally purchased the book with the highly favoured title & appealing cover, as a gift for a friend, in an effort to better understand her & the label she was adapting to of ‘depression’. However, before the book left my hands I found I was reading it, & embracing the journey & the understanding it was giving me. I came to the understanding I wasn’t depressed, or manic, or bi-polar, as I had suspected; although glimpses of these diagnoses seem to sneak into my world at times. I was simply part of a minority group considered\u00a0highly sensitive (see Personal Growth Topic ‘When the world overwhelms you’).<\/b>\u00a0On raising the topic of ‘wobbly’ amongst various groups I have had many funny conversations with friends who joke about being ‘merely undiagnosed’ yet relate strongly to the bipolar category or the ‘bipolar light’ as mentioned in recent times by a well-known celebrity on Oprah.<\/p>\n

After further research I can see how someone misunderstanding their ‘highly sensitive’ symptoms, or mismanaging their ‘wobbly’ episodes may end up misdiagnosed & possibly medicated either pharmaceutically or self-medicated with alcohol\/drugs in varying degrees! I strongly believe the practical measures in\u00a0Wobbly\u00a0help bring freedom to experience who you really are, especially if you feel you’ve lost a part of who you were, or if you feel you’ve never yet really begun to live life & enjoy it. I think if we were all honest we could all be considered ‘wobbly’ to some degree or another, whether it’s inherent or due to a stressful, pressurised season in life, of which parenthood can be clearly categorised!! It’s possible ,with understanding, to do life ‘wobbly’ & do it well!!!<\/span><\/p>\n

During my ‘wobbly’\u00a0journey\u00a0I\u00a0could relate to the author’s expression of feelings of ‘I’d rather die than see my kids suffer\/my family suffer as a result of my own shortcomings’. She guided me in rather considering ,………will I choose instead to LIVE for my kids?!?!?!<\/p>\n

You can decide today to choose LIFE! To live the best life you can live before your children!<\/strong>
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Personally, I had decided that I had lived ‘cornered’ for too long; cornered by my emotions, my responses, others’ responses & big doses of\u00a0misunderstanding. Life had held a big red STOP sign & pointed to failure, distress, frustration, torment, etc for an obvious decade of my life, marked very clearly by the birth of my twins. Change & understanding somehow became a necessity. I had reached a point where I knew I couldn’t go on like this anymore! I needed some understanding of myself & why I felt the way I felt; why I was the way I was; why I responded to life & others the way I did. I thought I’d already done this journey & understood, but it had become increasingly obvious that I had issues that needed to be resolved! I think this was termed a ‘breakdown’ of sorts!?!?!<\/span><\/p>\n

Vikki Roubin suggests that\u00a0a breakdown<\/strong>\u00a0can serve to get your attention.Walking the path to wellness starts & ends with choices!<\/span><\/p>\n

In the Bible,\u00a0<\/b>Deuteronomy 30:18-20, states, \u201cThe Lord God says ‘Today I have given you the choice between life & death, between blessings & curses. Now I call on heaven & earth to witness the choice you make.\u00a0Oh that you would choose life, so that you & your descendants might live<\/b>,\u00a0& that you may love the Lord your God, listen to His voice, & hold fast to Him’!<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00a0Decide to choose life! To choose life, & life abundant!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s our choices that show who\/what we really are; more than our abilities!<\/p>\n

Vikki has coined the phrase: ‘Choices are the marbles we place in our bag of tomorrows’.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

PERSEVERANCE<\/b>\u00a0is simply making the same right choice over & over & over again, day by day by day, again & again & again!!! Decide to persevere; to fight & keep fighting, to stand & keep standing, to hope & keep hoping. Decide\/choose not to allow your hope to be deferred any longer!<\/p>\n

Rest assured, if you do the right things, not only is change possible, it’s\u00a0INEVITABLE<\/b>! There is hope!!! Decide not to allow your hope to be deferred! ‘Carve a tunnel of\u00a0HOPE<\/b>\u00a0through the dark mountain of disappointment’. (Martin Luther King, Jr) Carve a tunnel of hope through the mountain of frustration, bitterness & resentment; a\u00a0mountain\u00a0that threatens to overshadow & consume\u00a0you & your hopes & dreams.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

DECIDE\u00a0<\/b>to take God at His word when He promises that He has ‘plans to prosper you & not to harm you; plans to give you a hope & a future’. (Jeremiah 29:11)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

DECIDE<\/b>\u00a0to drink of the sufficient grace available to you that will soothe the burning pain of the many years spent drinking of\u00a0the<\/b>\u00a0bitter cup of misunderstanding<\/b>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

DECIDE<\/b>\u00a0this day whom you will serve! Rest in the revelation that the light at the end of the tunnel is NOT an oncoming train….but the end of the tunnel & the dawning of a new day to be lived outside the tunnel.<\/span>
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HOPE<\/b>\u00a0is the feeling that the feeling you have isn’t permanent’! (Jean Kerr)<\/p>\n

Decide to HOPE & keep hoping despite the current circumstances that may be pressing hard up against you!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My ‘Wobbly’ Journey Content based on the BOOK:\u00a0Wobbly\u00a0by Vikki Roubin At the time I wrote this, a copy of\u00a0Wobbly\u00a0sat permanently displayed on my Bookstore Trolley; I was initially drawn to the colourful, girly cover & somehow I identified with the word ‘wobbly’!!! Without ever having read the book or understanding its content, I began to … Continue reading FINDING THE FREEDOM TO BE YOURSELF<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"parent":185,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/188"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=188"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/188\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":192,"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/188\/revisions\/192"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/185"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=188"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}