{"id":35,"date":"2015-04-29T20:57:48","date_gmt":"2015-04-29T10:57:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/parentequip.info\/?page_id=35"},"modified":"2015-07-02T21:14:45","modified_gmt":"2015-07-02T11:14:45","slug":"healthy-sexuality","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/parentequip.info\/?page_id=35","title":{"rendered":"Healthy Sexuality"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u00a0Info based on content from the BOOK: A chicken’s Guide to Talking Turkey with your Kids about SEX<\/span> <\/span>(Leman\/Bell. Ch 1, 2)<\/b><\/p>\n

Introducing the \u2018topic\u2019<\/b> before it becomes an \u2018issue\u2019<\/b>,……………………… or down the track, a \u2018crisis\u2019<\/b>!!!<\/span><\/h1>\n

The most important thing a preadolescent needs is information??? TRUE or FALSE?!?! FALSE<\/b>: Information is important, but more importantly what a child needs to succeed is an involved & loving parent.<\/b><\/p>\n

Grades 4-5. <\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n

The first base is to cultivate BASIC HYGIENE<\/b> skills before hormones kick in. To be interested in the other changes increases openness. \u2018First base<\/b>\u2019: zits, cracking voice, bad-hair days, clumsiness, fashion dramas. Also consider instances when your child injures themselves or feels awkward; this is an opportunity for you to engage with your child & to demonstrate that you care.<\/p>\n

Physical maturity does not equal emotional\/relational maturity.<\/p>\n

Consider what it means to have \u2018the talk\u2019<\/b> <\/span>versus being close enough to your child to talk meaningfully about sex & being purposeful in nurturing an ongoing, open, loving relationship. This is an ongoing process <\/b><\/span>if you\u2019re doing your job right, not a one off talk!<\/p>\n

A parents’ common retort: ‘You MUST \u2018abstain from sex<\/span>\u2019.<\/b> This will remain solely a one-liner<\/b> if YOU abstain from talking openly with your kids about their sexuality. This will become a heart response as they understand WHY<\/b> they ‘MUST abstain’ within the context of an open, ongoing, parent-child connection.<\/p>\n

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8-14 y.o.<\/b><\/span> <\/span><\/h4>\n

Puberty & the \u2018firsts\u2019<\/b> that accompany it. The first bra\/ first period\/ first discussion about development & expected behaviour with opposite sex.<\/span><\/p>\n

8-9 y.o<\/span>. <\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n

Your child w<\/b>on\u2019t say a lot but probably thinking about sex & related issues<\/span><\/p>\n

10-11y.o <\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n

Your child is probably talking with friends about sex & related issues<\/span><\/p>\n

12-14 y.o. <\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n

Your child may be having sex (especially if you haven\u2019t talked with & been involved in their lives to-date)<\/span><\/p>\n

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AIM<\/b><\/span><\/h4>\n